Do it Yourself

DIY Memorial Service

The following checklist will help you create a memorable celebration.

Do-It-Yourself Memorial Service Checklist

How to plan a memorable celebration:

Memorial Service

• Select an urn that reflects your loved ones personality.
• Choose location for the memorial service/celebration.
• Choose floral arrangements.
• Select which photographs and memorabilia you’d like to display. Create video or make photo boards.
• Consider any customs, traditions, or religious rites that are important to you and your family.
• Select music and hymns, if desired.
• Choose a theme for decorations and personalized stationery at your services.
• Brainstorm any additional ways you’d like to personalize the services or pay tribute to your accomplishments, hobbies, personality, and life story.
  

Participants

• Choose a clergy member or officiator to preside over the service. An honorarium of $150-$200 is customary.
• Select any musicians whose talents you’d like to employ. An honorarium of $75-$100 is customary for each musician.
• Choose friends or family members to perform the eulogy, read scripture, or prepare a speech.
  

Will you have military honors? Call your local VFW or American Legion to set up.

Final Disposition

• Choose a cemetery cremation plot or columbarium for urn if appropriate.
• Select a memorial or grave marker and inscription.
• Decide who will keep the urn until burial or scattering.
• Decide who will scatter the cremated remains and where.
  

Reception/Luncheon

• Choose location for the luncheon: restaurant, hall, your house, etc.
• Choose a cater or order food. Plan for about 15% more than expected so you don’t run out.
• Choose decorations that are fitting for the deceased. Did they have a favorite color or hobby?